Be clear about what you value in
Do you value health over success? Family over career?
Business over friendship? Spirituality over social life?
What are your values?
Most people just don’t have a clue.
As a result they live wishy-washy lives, devoid of clear
direction and power. As Confucius once said, ‘He who
aims at nothing... is sure to hit it!’
Take half an hour to think about these areas of your life,
and then list them in order of importance: Business,
family life, social life, health, spirituality. Which is
number one in importance? Which is number five? Once
you’ve worked out what you value most, ask yourself
whether you are currently living your life in accordance
with that values ladder.
If not, change your life.
Living a life according to your values is truly one of the
great secrets to happiness.
Get out of the
office early and work at home more often
The average office worker is scared to leave the office.
Terrified that the boss might think they’re lazy, they
stay at their desks even if they have little to do.
Eradicate that attitude from this moment onwards.
The only thing that matters is your performance, not how
many hours you worked, or where you worked. If your work
is done, leave, and give yourself a well-earned rest.
Perhaps the greatest swimmer in history, Mark Spitz,
attributed much of his success to his ability to make the
most of his time off between swimming events, and truly
Likewise if you work better at home, work often at home.
Do what gets results, not just what looks good to the
awesome power of persistence.
Want to know the
single most important reason that most people don’t
achieve their dreams? . . . . they give up too early.
Most people simply don’t realise that consistent failure
is a necessary component to achieving spectacular success.
If you’re not failing regularly you’re either aiming too
low, or not pushing yourself.
Colonel Sanders was turned down 1009 times before one
restaurant bought his chicken recipe.
Walt Disney got 203 rejections from banks until one said
yes to financing Disneyland.
Thomas Edison is said to have had over 10,000 separate
experiments before he succeeded in creating the electric
The secret to
success is persistence, persistence, persistence,
persistence, persistence, persistence, persistence,
persistence, persistence, persistence!
But make sure it’s intelligent persistence – vary your
methods, be flexible, think laterally. Then keep on going
and going until finally success eventually gives in and
gives you what you rightly deserve.
Write Thank You
Ever received a
nice Thank You note? It makes you feel terrific, doesn’t
it? One of the reasons it does is that we receive such
notes so rarely.
Don’t be like most people and send them once or twice a
year. Send them any chance you get and you’ll make a
favourable impact on hundreds of people each year.
forget those who take the time to say thank you.
Deliver what you
'I'll ring you tomorrow.’ ‘I’ll meet you at six o'clock.’
‘I’ll have that report finished by Friday.’
Little promises like these are made
all the time and very often not kept. But even though they
seem like minor things, powerful people fulfil their
little promises, and I’ll tell you why:
They understand that a person’s word
is crucial to their reputation, and if what they promise
they always deliver (no matter how small), word gets
around that that person can be trusted. And
trustworthiness is a much valued personality trait.
The trick is to promise a lot less,
then try to exceed what you promised.
There are two reasons why this simple
technique is very powerful.
The first and most obvious one is
that when you bother to ask people what they think, you
often hear angles on things you may not have considered
The second and perhaps the most
important reason is that it makes the people you ask feel
respected. One of the great lessons of life is to realise
that more than money, business people want respect.
(Indeed their acquisition of wealth or material
possessions is primarily just to gain more respect from
Every time you ask somebody’s opinion
you make them feel they’re included, and what they think
is worth hearing. In other words, you respect them.
Find out all your
friends’ and business associates’ birthdays
Even important people often only get a few cards on their
If you can take the time to make a list of clients’
birthdays and send them a card each year, they’ll remember
you fondly for life.
Same with your friends. There’s
hardly a person in the world who doesn’t feel warm inside
when they get a nice birthday card with some heartfelt
Big shot or small player, young or
old, everyone loves to be loved.
The great Persian mystic and renowned
psychologist, Dr Javad Nurbakhsh, once said that a
condition of good mental health and contentment is that
you be who you say you are.
The moment you start lying, you begin
to have something to hide, and all sorts of mental
weaknesses begin to develop from this inconsistency.
Lying not only weakens your
character, but surprisingly often it’s ineffective as a
tactic, simply because lies often get caught out – thereby
considerably damaging the reputation of the liar.
Be one of the minority who always
tells the truth. Not only will you feel better about
yourself, but people will feel better about you.
When everyone knows a person always
tells the truth, what they do say has great power and
Develop a strong
The vast majority of people do no
work on developing a healthy self image. Indeed many
people see themselves generally as failures at life.
In his classic book Psycho
Cybernetics, Dr Maxwell Maltz clearly showed that our self
image usually dictates our level of success.
Each time you look in the mirror,
affirm to yourself that you are talented, and do deserve
success. Take control of your self image from this moment
onwards, and reap the benefits for the rest of your life.
Aim to be the best
in the world at what you do
Am I crazy? What are the chances of
you ever being the best in the world at something? Pretty
But unless you aim for greatness, you never
achieve above mediocrity.
Always be thinking, ‘What would the
best' in the world do in this situation?’, and you’ll be
amazed at the progress you make.
Forget where you are now, keep
thinking about where you’d like to be. Strange as it may
seem, if you aim sincerely to be the number one in the
world at something, many seemingly unrelated areas of your
life will also improve.